My niece adopted a baby. YAY!! We are all so happy for the new family, lots of joy in these parts these days.
Of course, now the baby is 4 weeks old, and guess what y’all? She won’t sleep. It’s like this cruel joke that happens… you spend the first month of the baby’s life wishing they would wake up and play with you. And then they do wake up, and you spend the next howevermanyyears wishing they would just go back to sleep so you can get some rest.
No one tells you when you are planning to have a family just how hard it is. It is parenting’s best kept secret. And I don’t care if you have one typical child, or fourteen special needs kids, parenting is HARD. Forget sleeping when you want, forget spending money on anything fun, forget watching movies during daylight hours (because which of us really wants to watch Toy Story again for the umpteenth time?)
And yes, we love our children. They are precious and funny and we are glad they are alive. We do love seeing how they develop each day (though why do some of those lessons have to be so dang painful?)
And hopefully one day they will grow up to be not only functioning members of society, but also really cool adults that we want to hang out with.
In the meantime, well, there they are. In all their sticky, messy, tantrum-y, glorious-ness.
And then they smile at you. Give you a kiss. Tell you they love you. And it all becomes worth it.